For some men, that panicky feeling of talking to the girl you like in the 5th grade never fully goes away.Others may feel so insecure or unsure of themselves that they can barely bring themselves to say “hello” never mind working up the nerve to ask a woman for her number.PUA culture deals with this pervasive fear by in a multitude of ways.
With some experience, you will learn to differentiate the I am actually not anti-pick up in general.
Quite the opposite in fact; I think that there’s a lot of good to be found in it.
In many cases, our major source of how to get women to like us are our peers – and that’s often a case of the blind leading the blind.
Moreover, those who are blessed with a seemingly-innate affinity to women – “Naturals” in PUA lingo – often don’t what they’re doing.
I think that, when approached rationally and sanely that it can be a valuable resource. But if you It’s fascinating in a perverse sort of way that such disdain is heaped on someone wanting to get better at getting women to like them.
The state of dating advice for men is, frankly, fairly abysmal. If a young man were to decide that he wanted to get better at math, nobody would blink twice at his finding a tutor or taking extra classes.
And in fairness, there’s a lot to learn and appreciate from the Pick-Up community.
I’ve spent time in it myself in the beginning of my own personal transformation.
By rating women – on this supposedly objective scale – turns them from individuals to scores; a 7 is worth more than a 5 so you’re a better PUA if you hook up with her.
The elusive HB 9 or 10 of course are the best; a PUA who can regularly land 9s and 10s – known for being “next to impossible” to get with is god as much as guru.
On Wednesday, a Kickstarter project for a self-published book on picking up women entitled “Above The Game” started rocketing across blogs and Twitter. Ken Hoinsky shared excerpts from the upcoming book on r/seduction… As soon as the controversy broke, he took them down, but the Google cache is still available.