And he knows he got off easy with that woman; there are worse and more humiliating scams in the sugar-dating zip code than just losing a few hundred bucks.Back in October, Manhattan millionaire Paul Aronson, 85—85!Kitten left home when she was 18 after a fight with her family over a boyfriend, and she wasn't welcome back, not even after the relationship ended. “They were talking shit about it, saying it wasn't a good thing to do.” But Kitten saw it differently; she saw a way out.
And that's what it came down to: “The whole concept of a sugar daddy intrigued me, because even if I were dating someone traditionally, I'd give them money anyway.”In any case, Thurston found no shortage of willing candidates eager to accept his altruism, and he dated a bunch of them at once, feeling like a “kid in a candy store.” Eventually he settled on one very beautiful woman, 28, in real estate, with a Wells Fargo account that he could drop $5,000 into each month.
A note on the negotiation, from Thurston: “A lot of women put like $10,000” in their online profiles as their hoped-for monthly stipend, but “you just say ‘I'll give you $3,000’ and they say yes.” But he was still a novice at this, so he offered her $5,000, and she jumped at it. Thurston got his happy ending, and he never got scammed again.
Thurston Von Moneybags (not his real name) was scammed once by a girl in Houston. She didn't show to the meet, and that's the last time Thurston Von Moneybags ever got hustled again.
He had arranged to meet her so that he might size her up and determine whether he wanted to give her a monthly stipend in exchange for regular sex and sometimes maybe dinner. Was she blonde and blue-eyed, the way he liked them? Now he meets the girls for lunch before he offers them an ahem arrangement, and he is very clear. A thing you should know is that there are very few people to root for in this story.
But technology has affected this mini-economy twofold: First, as with any Etsy shop, anyone with a good to sell can now easily intersect with someone who wants this good; and second, it has created a culture of righteous entitlement, in which a fringe thing feels mainstream when you find enough people who participate in it.
Seeking Arrangement is just one of several sugar-dating sites, but a popular one.On all these websites, the splash page features a beautiful young woman, elegant but with sideboob, and either she's overtly dangling a piece of jewelry or she is wearing it. Each time, a man, older, nearing silver status, is looking right at her, unable to take his rich, priapic eyes off her.He has the beginnings of male-pattern baldness: baldness that says, “I've lived, I have money, here is a bracelet.” He is about to lean into her neck, maybe take a big old bite out of it, and she hangs back, only for a moment, only to tell us her secret, which is: “Look, I got a bracelet.”Everyone on Seeking Arrangement knows what they're there for, Thurston says.He went to some of the best colleges and grad schools. Just ask his ex-wife—even she wouldn't say a bad word about him.But you know how it is, the fires dampen, and he wanted a lot of sex—“I'm Italian! ”—and eventually they divorced, and Thurston wanted something, mainly a lot of sex without having to beg for it, and to be found attractive again.Most of the girls there weren't pretty like her, and they'd make fun of her, saying, “What are you doing here, princess? Kitten says that it isn't always about sex: There were some nebbishy men (and some women; she's sugar-dated both) who just wanted companionship.