"The trouble is that once you see it, you can't unsee it.
And once you've seen it, keeping quiet, saying nothing, becomes as political an act as speaking out. Either way, you're accountable." — Arundhati Roy This list has been widely circulated as though it is meant to speak for all autistic people and cover all possible situations or contexts (it's not), and as a result, I've gotten a lot of really misplaced hate mail and mocking comments.
Not everyone who can write a blog post can live independently, tend to their own activities of daily life, get and keep a job, complete higher education, travel alone, communicate with oral speech, or manage their own finances.
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There are people like , all of whom are non-speaking Autistics or people with autism who have given presentations at conferences, written blog posts, written letters to the editor, published articles in newsletters or journals, and visited legislators.
Other people, like Every Autistic person is different from every other Autistic person.
This list is meant to describe common things that strangers, out of context (i.e.
when not invited, and when inappropriate), often say to me and many other autistic people right after finding out that we're autistic, and that, because they are said so frequently, can get tiresome and frustrating to hear over and over again even if the person saying it had no bad intent.
The r-word is often used to express hatred for people with disabilities. While this is rarely said to Autistic people whose disability is very visible, it is very frequently said to Autistic people with much more invisible disability.
It's insulting because it suggests that because the person doesn't appear to be disabled or doesn't fit preconceptions of what Autistic people are supposed to sound or act like, that person must therefore not have a disability or be Autistic.Especially in those cases, people might not understand why these can be so offensive and hurtful, and occasionally insist that what they're saying is a compliment, even when it's not.Factually speaking, Autistic people in many cases do not have an intellectual or cognitive disability, and many people with intellectual or cognitive disabilities are not also Autistic.There are some Autistic people who also have an intellectual or cognitive disability.Nevertheless, the word "retarded" is often very hurtful for Autistic people, as it is frequently used as an insult to dehumanize people with developmental and intellectual disabilities.And yes, there are probably plenty of autistic people out there who might not be bothered or upset by some, many, or all of the statements in this list.