Rather, it’s a thoughtful, diligent, entertaining piece of first-person investigative journalism.masculinity, of course).
Some people have questioned the honesty of Vincent’s narrative (in order to protect her subjects’ privacy, Vincent changes names and identifiable details).
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From Norah’s interview, I remember that she said the number one word that summed up strip clubs was “pain.” The dancers were in pain because they hated what they were doing and they hated the men watching them.
The men were in pain because they hated themselves for being there and (for most of them) for knowing they would lie to their wives about where they had spent the evening.
Vincent’s description of the emotionless, mean sex played out in strip clubs is particularly affecting, and repulsive.
As an aside, before reading this book I had no idea that men are actually supposed to during lap dances.
Beyond the agonizing dating chapter, she never tries to pass for the kind of straight man she might already know, an urban guy with bobo-style, liberal-arts values and inclinations.
(For that matter, she also doesn’t try to be a gay man.) In that context, I don’t think being a man is half as hard as she thinks it is, and whatever one thinks about the biochemical basis of sex and gender, the performance of gender roles is a lot more fluid than she depicts.
The gulf between Vincent and these men contains a lot besides the male/female gulf, but Vincent seems unaware of that, and as the book goes on she increasingly chalks up all the differences she sees to biological determinism.
From the It’s undoubtedly brave and noble that Vincent tried to cross class as well as gender boundaries, but as aware as she is of that issue on the bowling team, I think the former category is more important than she realizes.
, Norah Vincent’s non-fiction book about passing as a man for a year. I was a bit disturbed by the But “Self-Made Man” turns out not to be what it threatens to be, a men-are-scum diatribe destined for best-seller status in the more militant alternative bookstores of Berkeley and Ann Arbor.