But here are the elements most conservative communities have in common: My grandmother grew up in a marginally Christian community.People went to church on Sunday, but that was the extent of their religious activity. I grew up as a member of the homeschool community back when we were hiding from the cops and getting our textbooks from public school dumpsters.
I am not convinced that anyone is ever truly ready to get married.
Readiness can become a carrot on a stick, an ideal that can never be achieved.
So if she went out for soda with Bob on Tuesday, she had to go to a movie with Bill on Thursday before she could go to the school dance with Bob on Saturday. The lack of exclusivity kept the interactions fun and casual. How could a boy have a claim to her time, heart or body if she was going out with someone else later that week?
She went on to explain that by the time she graduated from high school, she had gone out on dates with over 20 different guys.
“If I had only gone out with 3 or 4 guys I wouldn’t have known what I wanted in a husband,” she said.
It is not that her parents were uninvolved; it is that they played an advisory role, particularly as she entered high school and they relaxed the rules about not going steady.This meant that by the time she was 17 years old she knew which Bob she wanted to marry.They got married and stayed married till my grandfather passed away half a century later.It often had symbols like the girl wearing the guy’s letter jacket.This telegraphed to everyone at school that she was “off the market” and that she had a “steady beau”.Some of the specific challenges I identified were: So I founded Practical