Maybe if he gets on for the forum he can put in his profile he is seeing someone and is only there for the forums or for friends. You didn't trust him, looked him up but after going to all that trouble, you didn't carry out your spying far enough. I should be more important then someone he talks to on POF as a friend. Keep checking up on him with your "friends account" or your bogus (current? Come back every few days and give us updates, many Forumites live vicariously through the common melodramas that neophytes come up with weekly.. Why does everyone make up a story about how they happened upon their lover on a dating site still looking?
I compare it to shopping at You have to sift through a lot of crap before you find a gem.
In your case, it sounds like you found someone you like.
In my “Love Essentially” column published today in the Sun-Times Media local publications, I respond to a reader’s e-mail regarding a guy she met on one of the dating websites, who she really likes. When should two people who are dating be expected to stop using dating websites? In other words, maybe he needs to know that you are “in,” before he takes himself “out” of the dating game. I would instead bring up your concerns that night in a nice, non-confrontational way.
There’s one red flag: his profile is still active on the site! What I first want to say is that I’m happy you’ve met someone you seem to like. The minute two people decide to cancel their e Harmony subscriptions, aren’t they saying they are exclusive? Maybe just say, “I’m not judging you or telling you what you should do or what I’m expecting you to do, but I noticed you are still looking at women’s profiles on Match. ” This will undoubtedly lead to a conversation that could go wonderfully well or head south quickly.
If that happens, you might be hurt and upset, but wouldn’t you be glad you know that upfront, before you jump in physically and emotionally?
Having that information, as painful as it might be, leaves you with two choices: keep dating him or end it. Another thing that is bothersome is that this guy knows you are going to see that he has activity on Match. However, in his defense, maybe he is insecure about how you feel, and unsure if you are interested in him enough. If his profile was still up, but he was not showing activity, that might make me feel a little bit more confident that he’s ready to stop dating other women.One would defintiely think that 3 months of dating would "merit" some sort of relationship tie. Put your name back out there girl...don't expect him to graciously accept your move back into availability on the website.....funny how when the tables are turned, it isn't so gratifying.BUT, if he told you he is no longer on the site and you caught him in a "lie"...will lie about other things too. Why in the world do people delete their profiles anyways? And talk to the friends you made on here too =) Only delete it when you ''sure'' about the relationship.