Seeing all these whisperers tapping into their extrasensory ability to bond with less communicative creatures, I began to wonder if I could do something similar with my husband.
Could delving into his psyche help strengthen our relationship?
Not surprisingly, that didn't even bring a response. Men really respond to physical touch."So I leaned in closely until we were practically cheek to jowl, but not close enough to block his view of the evening news, and I placed my hand gently on his shoulder.
(She had earned a Spirit award nomination for the 1996 indie ) The shoot was not without its controversies: While trainer Buck Brannaman, who inspired the title character, served as a technical consultant, the final cut contained several horse-training no-nos, including Redford wearing a large ring — a sure way to lose a finger.
The film drew high marks from , which called it a "vital, subtle story" and singled out its trio of leads — Kristin Scott Thomas rounds things out as Grace's workaholic mom — as its strongest asset. "She gains our sympathies as a young girl whose future has been horribly changed." Richard La Gravanese, who co-wrote the screenplay (he also adapted 1995's ), says Johansson "brought a heartache to the part that seemed to come from experience beyond her years." The $80 million movie was a hit for Touchstone, earning $187 million globally ($280 million today).
He'd turn around and say, "Hey, where'd that bread go?
" and I'd say, "I thought you were done." Arguments ensued.
, a 1998 weepy directed by and starring Robert Redford.
He plays Tom Booker, a Montana wrangler/Zen master who helps a tomboy named Grace (Scarlett Johansson, then 13) and her horse, Pilgrim, overcome the trauma of a riding accident that left her leg partially amputated."Women see dirt and feel the mess that men don't see or feel," explained psychotherapist Marilyn Kagan, LCSW, who, with psychologist Neil Einbund, Ph D, leads the Making Marriage Work courses at American Jewish University in Los Angeles. Einbund agreed: "When I do the dishes, my wife will come in afterward and rinse out the sink because she doesn't think it's clean enough.I look at the sink and it doesn't bother me."I was willing to concede our irreconcilable aesthetic differences, but not yet ready to cave on his cleaning up.Anything to get my spouse to, among other things, throw away his used yogurt containers, leave the toilet seat down and place his dirty clothes in the laundry basket rather than going for a three-point shot and letting them fall as they may.So, armed with an arsenal of expert tips, I embarked on a four-week experiment to see if I could somehow morph into a Husband Whisperer and, with practice, patience and perseverance, mold my spouse's mind ever so gently." Not only did I succeed in getting his attention, I got him to spring into action.