Only marriage relinquishes ownership of one's "good" body to one's partner.
Parents must overcome this naivety when a teen complains about parental restrictions.
If we want our young people to be prepared for marriage these are the questions that we must ask: In answering these questions, we need to know the criteria by which the answers must be judged.
Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.
But they are still reaping what they sowed, often in a later generation who bear the fruit of their careless immoral ways.
Parental foolishness starts early on in the pre-teens, where crushes are condoned, and the habit of living in fantasies is established.
Ask yourself these questions: "Which is more biblical? " In earlier times, all courtship included rigid supervision and protection of the female.
It was built on the premise of family introductions, and the focus was on the father's role in establishing a new family, hence the question in the marriage ceremony, "Who gives this woman away?
Our attitude to dating is not so much a matter of church policy but a matter of family government.
Laying a solid foundation in this area is a parental reponsibility, but the church has a responsibility to hold the family accountable to the Word of God.
Sexual desires are not designed to be started and stopped over and over again!
Finally, it is naive to think that it is all a matter of self-control. Self-control means refraining from sexual touch of any kind, at least until covenantal engagement.
For all that is in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life - is not of the Father but is of the world.