Both sites require members to disclose their illnesses upfront, clearing the air for what might be a deal-breaking revelation later.Within her first week on Positive Singles, she went on three dates and has since gone on seven more, which fostered one romantic relationship and a friendship over the past two years. “I dont think I would have been able to have 10 dates without the site,” says Lana.
“Its easier to get rejected via email, and you can take baby steps online without hunting outside.” Though Prescription 4 Love didnt yield any dates for Lana, this fast-growing online community offers an alternative to mainstream dating sites for thousands of singles.
Now three years old, the site currently has 8,000 members who represent nearly 40 health conditions ranging from genital herpes (2,425 members) to Tourettes syndrome (32 members). “He was having a hard time with that, so I thought if he could find someone who had the same disease, or someone with a colostomy bag, he wouldnt really have to discuss that.” Since launching the site, Durham, 48, who previously dabbled in the stock market and worked as a bartender, was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes.
“People with disabilities, especially developmental disabilities, are typically behind the eight ball because they havent had the practice of dating in college or their young adult life,” says Watson.
“Many of them never had the puppy love, been broken up with, experienced the fights, or the good stuff.” To make up for this lost time, his best bit of advice is to be totally honest.
Getty Images Lana, a 38 year-old publicist in Los Angeles, was diagnosed with genital herpes in 1997.
Since then, she has "kind of been hiding" from the dating scene.
"And lets face it, depending on what [the illness] is, it could very well make you uncompetitive in the larger dating pool." Fortunately, there are a number of alternatives.
A new breed of dating site has emerged to play cupid for people with chronic diseases and disabilities.
“I thought to myself, ‘There should be something like this out there, and I was surprised to find there wasnt,” says Leftwich.
“If youre mentally ill, its kind of a hostile world out there.
People with mental health problems, from chronic depression to schizophrenia, have also benefited from specialized sites.