Some of those perpetual issues or differences such as free-spending or frugal, neat and orderly or sloppy and disorganized, interested in lots of time together or more involved in outside activities begin to emerge.
At this stage of the relationship, couples will take note of the differences and may even begin to complain or attempt to problem-solve.
Both halves of a couple will notice weaknesses and differences or flaws.
“Cute” habits might become irritating at this stage.
Going slowly in making any decisions about a relationship are more likely to be better ones than moving quickly (unless it is clear that the relationship is not a good fit).
Stage 3: “Enlightenment” and Becoming a Couple During this stage of a relationship, hormones are calming down and reality sets in. Trust is stronger and more intimacies may be shared at this stage as couples take away some of their “best face” and allow themselves to act more naturally and relaxed.
Early attraction often involves the physical attributes of the partner and include things like outward appearance, body type, interests and personality traits.
At this stage, the attraction may not be too “deep” and each half of a couple is generally putting his or her best foot forward.
There is no need to rush through this important stage and every reason to go slowly.
Stage 4: Commitment or Engagement At this stage in a relationship, couples should have a good understanding of their partner’s values, life style, and goals for the future.
Often (not always) there is not enough “is this the right person for me” but rather more “what can I do to make this person like me?
” This stage may last for 3 or 4 months depending on the individuals and their maturity, experience and self-understanding.
Each person needs to listen to their own inner voice and wisdom.