I will tell this story in order of the timeline, but it’s not how I learned it. I don’t mind going with my kids and with friends and tourists. I had been raped three times already before my experience at Principia College, and I knew how to get away.I didn’t learn this first part until after it was all over. She chalked it up to, “oh, it was accidental, he didn’t do that on purpose.” The next week, I was walking up to the Reading Room door to arrive a few minutes before my shift started. I have to say I wanted to turn around and go to the coffee shop on the corner and wait it out. My husband tried to convince me to go to the police about this. There is a “look” rapists get in their eye, and I learned to recognize it, defend myself and keep defending until they go away. They do NOT want someone who will fight back and be difficult.I had previously slept with him, but didn’t want to this time. At Principia, it was against the rules to lock your doors, therefore doors didn’t even have locks! This person is much larger than I am, and I was genuinely getting afraid.
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This whole #Me Too hashtag on social media (the Movement was started by Tarana Burke) has hit home for me and for so many of my friends – male, female, trans…
As Doctor Phil might say: “How is that working for you? I am so grateful for good, solid therapy, psychiatric care, and specific medicines.
Did you know that talking about our fears actually makes them have less power over us?
David and Goliath assured me that I was safe, that’s what I had learned from a young age.
“The story of David and Goliath teaches us that we can take down a bully or someone of power if we just believe in God enough! ” I yelled at myself constantly for not feeling safe.
It is and open full time with regular business hours and staffed only by one woman at a time. ) This was not one of those Reading Rooms where it’s open like 1 or 2 hours per week only. Collins also told the detective what had happened to her. She was also very surprised that I hadn’t called the police right away. At some point a few days later, it occurred to me that women are supposed to call the police immediately when this happens – that this is a NORMAL and HEALTHY response – to call the police! But it made me realize that despite the fact that it’s now been years, I still cannot be there alone.
This one paid the staff a salary wage, and kept it open full time with regular hours. I realized how bad of an idea it was that Christian Science had conditioned me to do the exact wrong thing! I still have issues going to that major metropolitan city. She was over an hour late to meet me, and I started to panic. Both of these instances happened in Christian Science settings, and neither of these times were not the first time I was assaulted, attacked, raped, anything.
Like just about every other woman I know, I have also worked in hostile work environments, been catcalled, assaulted, raped.
I have heard so many stories of female students being assaulted, raped, treated inappropriately by staff members / faculty / professors.
Collins had a regular homeless visitor who came in. This person I had never seen before was standing there, staring at the hours on the door, waiting for it to open. But I didn’t want to “get in trouble” by not opening on time. I leaned over to get the Bible off the shelf, and he stroked the back of my butt in a specific way that terrified me (this is not something my husband would even do, believe me). After 2-3 hours of him telling me this is what I should do, he said, “what if he tries to do this to a female who works in a nearby store? Thanks to me learning this THE HARD WAY, I haven’t had a rape since.