I even had one reader who had gave the man a hard time the day after their first date when his profile was still up.
I wish these readers had written me beforehand because this is often the worst approach to take (at least from this guy’s point-of-view). I do have some advice but let’s first look at one reader’s email and user this as an example for better understanding where you stand with your guy: I have been dating a man I met on for about 6 weeks – we go out regularly and he is always quick to make plans with me.
If you have agreed to be exclusive, things are easy: you just need to ask him to take it down!
First off let me say that many men keep their profiles active even though they are interested in the woman they are regularly dating.
Men are slower to commit and many also need their ego “stroked”.
Perhaps not nice or courteous but not unfair either.
It’s especially bothersome if his actions suggest exclusivity even if he hasn’t declared so in words…and yet it is still acceptable in my mind for him to keep his profile up, even in this case.
We have a great time together and he calls every night to chat or say goodnight.
I am really interested in him and I get the feeling that he feels the same way.
While I still believe what I wrote there, I’m finding that many of the women who are contacting me are not at the point where they are sure if the man is their “boyfriend” or not.
With that in mind I wanted to review one of the recent emails I’ve received from a reader and offer some additional advice for this problem.
As I discussed above, I would recommend against being aggressive or angry.
Still, these are areas you will need him to define.
You’ve decided to try online dating and found yourself talking to a man that seems promising.